Feel overwhelmed by the wedding? There are common problems that I have seen on here over and over again. but add in my case it personalized. I am 19 years old mother of a year 1 1 / 2 old baby pregnant two numbers. I feel so drained, so tired of the same thing every day. I can never leave the house, except when my husband and I go grocery shopping or something like that. Or when I go to church I want to share with my husband.
I got pregnant at 17 years and everything I did and that changed me 100% I drank smoked pot slipped. Became pregnant, so just in the main I think stuck. I changed everything I want my children see me as. My husband went out and got a good job (they treat him like shit and he hates it), it has health benefits back to the house from 1200 to 1300 every two weeks. Then, he just wants to return to live life as it used to be. I gave him the opportunity to jump like a father, he chose to marry and support me. I feel so overwhelmed because I am the villain of all time, his only motivation for not doing things we were doing because I'll give him hell and make him feel guilty (not on purpose) I understand I put so much pressure on him. I refuse to live in a shithole baby furniture or use that is overused. Perhaps there is nothing on the right is good enough for me. I think it's my duty to take care of children and housework, dinner for him when he comes home, I think it's just that's how it should be the most time cuz it travaille beaucoup d'heures, et il serait dedraisonnable de l'attendre a la cuisine et le mednage apra¨s une journede de 12 heures. It is just hard work is never done, I just want him to come back and want to come home instead of wishing it was time for a drink. I just want him to want to go to church with me. We simply no longer compatible. I just want advice on how to make things easier? We just got in a fight and he stressed how much I put pressure on him. I put a lot of pressure, I can not stand to lose. I told him I'm ready to go to work, but he wants me to wait until the children are in school. I do not know what I'm really asking this question, except for words of advice and encouragement. how can I be less Nagy and make him understand that I do not want to be naughty. I just want whats best for my family.
Please no negative responses or derogatory.
The maturity comes at a price, and it is sometimes very high.
We married young, had two children too close together. I failed to understand my wife was a homemaker, wife, lover, mother, pregnant, cook, cleaning lady, laundry, counselor, never had enough sleep, never had time for her private- same, and I participated in a job I don 't like. Sound familiar?
Was 42 years ago. How did we get through difficult times? We communicated. Sat down and explored each other's feelings, desires, needs, desires, needs, and fantasies. Some heated arguments really successful, but at least we hear each other. If you can just understand what the other crosses, then you can withstand a pressure a little more.
You have the stress and pressure that your husband does not understand. It was stress and pressure that you do not fully understand. He is a man, you're a woman, and you will see things differently.
Your problem will ease as time passes. Your husband may join an army of other men who hate what they do for a living. I have done, but I put up with it because my wife and children had to eat.
Nobody ever told me or anyone else that life is fair. It is not fair. It never will, because each of us want things made our way, and that conflicts with the wishes of all others who want things done their way!
Right now you're tired, frustrated.
Posted on June 5, 2010.
