Aggression In Children

Aggression in children is a behavior that causes injury to another. The injury may be psychological (in the form of verbal abuse) or physics.

Usually, the child tends to be impulsive, easily irritable, immature, inarticulate about feelings and has difficulty taking criticism or frustration.

The motives behind the assault

There is a saying that children do not do things that we want them to do, they do things we do. They learned the behavior by observing others, like parents, siblings and peers. Thus, we must ensure that we set a good example for them to follow. Our behavior must be consistent, we must do what we have preached to them.

One reason why children show aggression is that they want to achieve their own ends or the attention they want.

The aggression may be due to the frustration of everyday life especially when there may be some obstacles that prevent them from meeting their needs. As I observed in my niece, at times, she will compete with his two brothers for their mother's attention and if she did not get what she wants, she displays a certain form of physical aggression towards her two brothers.

With the increased exposure to mass media nowadays and without proper guidance of parents and adults, children are easily influenced by the glamorize violence. Internet and computer games may also be other channels where children are exposed to violence. Recently, I was taken a leadership training personnel for school children 13 years and I asked them to list some of their strengths. To my surprise, one of the boys told me it is good to kill. I discovered a new calling for talks about computer games. Children do not understand the difference between media and real life. Thus, it is important that we give them appropriate advice.

A common reason why children show aggression is when their emotional needs, such as the need for love and security, praise and recognition are not met. As what Mother Teresa said: "The hunger for love is much harder to remove than the hunger for bread." The need for love is especially true of children who are constantly in search of love and attention of their parents and adults. They are constantly seeking approval and attention from their parents for their behavior. As adults, they like to receive praise and recognition from parents and adults.

Know the reasons why children display aggression, let us take a look at how to prevent aggression in children.

The first and foremost thing we can do is to limit the exposure of our children to violence on television. Like a coin has two sides, we can also use violence on television to show them the negative consequences and nonviolent alternatives. It is also good to watch what they traverse the Internet. However, remember that we must also respect their privacy and personal space.

The other thing we can do is to consistently apply the rules that promote "love and respect," as non-violence "and" no teasing. "The best way to respect these rules is to make us same. We must remind ourselves that our children are constantly observing what we do, so we really need to watch our behavior. We must respond appropriately when we are upset. When our children misbehave, we must not react aggressively to them. When children are fighting, first separate and then calmly explain to them why they can not act as they acted.

Many children have an abundance of energy and without a proper channel to release energy, energy can manifest itself in the form of aggression whether intentional or unintentional. A good way to prevent aggression in children is to find a way to drain energy and a.